For those of us wanting to dive into doing in-person sessions within our Domme work, Impact Play can be a big part of most sessions, as a large majority of subs will request it. The thought of it for a beginner can be intimidating, but once you learn the in's and outs and get a little practice, it'll be an exciting element to bring to future sessions.
1. Know what type of impact tools you want to use
There are different types of impact toys and instruments: paddles, floggers, whip...
2020-12-07 20:13:40 +0000 UTC
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Happy Holidays!
My organization, Black Domme Sorority, is hosting a toy drive for SWers with families/children. We are still accepting registrations for those in need to sign up! If you are needing help this holiday season, please register at the link below!
https://msha.ke/bdstoydrive/#how-it-works-1
❤️
2020-11-25 16:04:34 +0000 UTC
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Let’s post about our wins! Whether it’s getting new subs, new SD, gifts, OF subscribers, etc...how has the lifestyle so far changed things for you?
2020-11-23 22:42:27 +0000 UTC
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It's no secret that often times working in this industry can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to always be that way. To avoid stress and feelings of not being productive, it's best to learn how to manage your time in SW, no matter what part of the industry you are apart of. Here's a few tips:
1. Plan out your schedule
Whether you write it down or type it in your notes on your phone, plan out your content creation schedule. This can be planned by the day, week, or month. Priori...
2020-11-20 18:15:15 +0000 UTC
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Happy Monday! I am now back in action with a new laptop so no longer have to do courses through the app! This week:
- CONTENT INSPO
- IMPACT PLAY: HOW TO
- TIME MANAGEMENT IN SW
- SENSATION PLAY: HOW TO
2020-11-16 20:16:50 +0000 UTC
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Things are slowly opening back up and people are going back to being their kinky selves (social distancing and masks included of course). If you’re interested in attending your first BDSM event in your city, here are done tips about how to go about it.
1. Research events in your area
This can easily be done on fetlife. On your homepage, select the “Events” tab and search by your city or zip code for any events that are happening near you.
...
2020-10-24 18:41:10 +0000 UTC
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New month, new suggestions!
Please only suggest courses that already haven’t been covered! I will compile a list and provide what you all will want to see. Comment below (be sure to add your tier beside your comment).
2020-10-06 15:17:41 +0000 UTC
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Good morning! Happy Friday!
I want to touch base on a topic that is very important in this community and your future journey within it: mental health
As SWers, no matter which category, sometimes it’s easy to get overwhelmed with filming content, communicating with clients, going on dates, buying the right gear, etc. It can test our sanity and make us want to give up all together which can lead to internal struggles.
The most important thing to remember...
2020-10-02 13:35:51 +0000 UTC
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In Findom, a wallet drain is an online session consisting of the sub sending you amounts of money back to back to your payment methods (drain). These sessions are usually set up through DM or email with the sub letting you know what they’re looking for. I recommend carrying out these sessions through Skype or Kik.
You can ask the subs their budget up front just so you’re aware of how much you’ll be getting. Some will have a budget, some won’t. This session can be done through te...
2020-09-01 18:09:35 +0000 UTC
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Ever find yourself feeling like you’re coming across a lot of timewasters? It could be how you’re presenting yourself in your pro domination work. Subs tend to waste the time of those who they feel may not be taking their work “seriously” or those who seem unsure about their pricing, protocol, or branding. Here are ways that I, Mistress Marley, communicate with subs interested in booking real time sessions or serving online.
General email for those wanting to book me fo...
2020-08-28 18:24:07 +0000 UTC
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5 part video, all in google drive . This course covers how to start your domme business outside of just doing it casually.
* fixed last video that wouldn’t load
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ay3u6Xt21WBpNDOxmLWmY1ZMRrPz8SGr
2020-08-27 21:39:39 +0000 UTC
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This course is for all tiers!
The bread and butter of having a successful Dom/me journey, SW journey, or SB journey is your content and photos. The clearer the better. The more focused the better. The more creative the better. Here are some tips I use to take good pictures, all on my PHONE. Yup, you don’t need a professional camera to take good photos.
1. Make sure you have good lighting. This can be accomplished by purchasing a ring light that you hook your phone to, or...
2020-07-22 17:17:23 +0000 UTC
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Good morning all! I wanted to touch base on an important note.
I’m noticing that I’m getting messages and comments asking questions about things that have already been answered in courses. It is important that you read through all course materials and only message or comment if you ABSOLUTELY can’t find what you’re looking for. A good amount of time goes into writing up these courses for you all and I expect everyone to be proactive in their learning.
Thank you! :)
2020-07-19 10:20:19 +0000 UTC
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I’ve been getting a lot of questions on how to know who to match with on vanilla dating sites. With these sites, you have to mutually match with someone before you can start chatting. You may think just because you set the age filter to older men that they will all be walking wallets; not quite. Here are some things to look out for on profiles.
1. Career
- A certain career can give off a good idea of what the persons wealth level is. Any positions such as “...
2020-07-09 22:10:52 +0000 UTC
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PSO = Phone Sex Operation
For those using Niteflirt, Sextpanther, or any other PSO website, this course is for you!
In my opinion, PSO is the easiest method to make coin. You can do it from the comfort of your bed without getting dressed, at any time of the day and the only tool you’ll need is your cell phone (or laptop).
It’s up to you if you want to create multiple characters, or personalities when doing PSO. This widens your reach when it comes to clients and keeps yo...
2020-07-03 14:54:48 +0000 UTC
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This post is for everyone; sugar babies, SWers, Dommes, Subs, etc
We are all wanting to jump into different lifestyles and most of us want to make sure we look the part. There is no set style or way that you should dress within your marketing and branding; it’s all about YOU. Are you feminine? More masculine? Do you like pinks and reds or all black? Do you like the stylings of the past or are you futuristic? What kind of tools do you want to use? All valid questions to ask yourself. I...
2020-06-17 14:33:36 +0000 UTC
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This course is for subs who want to know how to market themselves as a pro sub, whether for sessions, events, performances, etc.
Your marketing will be similar to a Dom(me) in the sense of tools such as graphics, posting on social media, and content, but please be aware that pricing for yourself will be different. I will give full transparency in saying that it is RARE that a Dominant party will pay a submissive for service. Is it impossible? No. But it is rare as it can confuse the D/s...
2020-06-17 03:51:53 +0000 UTC
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Another check in for the month of June! Let’s chat updates, wins (whether monetary or within yourself), progress, findings, etc.
Comment below 💓
2020-06-08 16:13:03 +0000 UTC
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I know this will be a touchy course especially with the recents events these past couple of weeks. Trigger warning.
Raceplay is a topic that comes up often in BDSM and SW: as a Black person or person of color, should I participate in it or not? From my perspective, I wouldn’t recommend.
There have been instances in raceplay where the outcome is rarely ever positive, unless “reverse racism” play is used instead (as in black SWers receiving reparations from white subs/clients)...
2020-06-04 17:59:23 +0000 UTC
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As we’ve learned, there are many avenues for promoting yourself, your brand, and your content. One of those avenues can be through cam work.
Cam work opens you up to interactions with many different viewers with different interests, similar to PSO. You can cam on different platforms and different rooms based on your preferred niche. Some cam sites to keep in mind:
Chaturbate
Camsoda
LiveJasmin
Stream Mate
All cam sites do NOT require nude work. There are...
2020-06-02 09:21:02 +0000 UTC
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What is team viewer?
Team viewer is a computer and mobile app that allows you to remotely control another persons computer. Although this is mostly used in educational or business settings, it is also now being widely used in findom sessions.
A paypig will typically hit up a domme asking for a “teamviewer drain session”, in which they want the domme to send themselves money through PayPal, cash app, etc. BE SURE TO ALWAYS GET THIS TYPE OF SESSION ADDRESSED IN A WRI...
2020-06-02 09:13:32 +0000 UTC
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2020-05-30 21:07:51 +0000 UTC
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Let’s all follow each other on our social media SW, Domme, or SB pages to increase engagement. Comment your links/pages below! 😇❤️
2020-05-29 01:48:51 +0000 UTC
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DO:
1. Communicate effectively with finsubs to let them know your financial expectations
2. Always have your payment methods easily accessible, especially for silent tributes
3. Post tributes that you get here and there; this sometimes encourages others finsubs to tribute
4. Write up debt contracts for finsubs who may be on more of a budget
DON’T:
1. Don’t mention findom on...
2020-05-20 14:29:32 +0000 UTC
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Just like any other job, SW is work. And just like any other job, you should learn to save your earnings. In this field of work, there is no guaranteed paycheck or a set hourly rate per hour. You could meet your money goals in less than 5 hours or have a slow week. SW can be seen as fast money, but you should save it even faster.
1. Set monthly goals
As you can set your content creation goals, you can also set goals for how much money you’d like to ...
2020-05-18 20:45:48 +0000 UTC
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Clip sites can be an alternative or addition to websites like Onlyfans or AVN. With clips sites, your subscribers don’t have to sign up for a monthly fee, but instead can buy your clips straight out, meaning you can charge higher prices.
Some clips sites:
Manyvids
I Want Clips
Clips 4 Sale
On each site, you can post in different categories ranging from Femdom, to Ebony, to Solo, etc.
To join most sites, you still have to provide identification like Onlyf...
2020-05-10 22:31:54 +0000 UTC
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So now that you’ve created your Only Fans page and have gained a few subscribers, it’s important to be interactive with your “fans”. You want them to keep coming back to pay that monthly subscription - not just subscribe and go. There are many ways that you can interact with fans:
1. Having a welcome message
You can set a welcome message by going to settings > message icon at the top of the page. This welcome message will automatically send to each sub...
2020-05-09 13:36:26 +0000 UTC
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You can make kink a big part of your life, but you also have to remember that sometimes you will have to “come down” from the experience, especially after a session. Unless you consider yourself a lifestyle kinkster, it is okay to not practice BDSM 24/7. Take some time to unplug if you need to.
One way to do this after session is to relax. We call this coming down from “Dom/me space” or “sub space”. This can involve talking casually about the scene you just did, drinking wat...
2020-05-07 14:04:41 +0000 UTC
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