We've discussed this course before in plenty of Zoom calls and past posts, but here's a refresher:
When communicating with subs, whether potential subs or current ones, the goal is to always speak from an angle of your needs. Yes, the subs needs matter too, but as you are the Dominant and the sub has a consensually agreed to serve you, it's up to you to provide tasks, directions, and overall communicate your needs to them.
REMINDER THAT THE BEST WAY TO KEEP COMMUNICATION IS THROUG...
2021-09-07 15:13:21 +0000 UTC
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Happy new month! 🎉🥳
I hope everyone has been utilizing the many courses here on the Sexcademy. Please also utilize the resources! There was an open Q&A Zoom Call last week that only about 60 students attended. I can only help you if you’re trying to help yourself.
Reminder: the info is there; you just have to do some digging through the Patreon. I’ll be working on better ways to easier compile the courses.
In the meantime, let’s...
2021-09-01 23:50:29 +0000 UTC
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For those of us on NF that need help creating banners for pages, here’s an example of mine. It was created by http://myadultdesign.com/ in less than 24 hours and I highly recommend reaching out to them!
2021-08-25 13:47:44 +0000 UTC
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Name marked out for confidentiality. This is a basic contract. Depending on the D/s dynamic, contracts can be more in debt
2021-08-12 12:54:57 +0000 UTC
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We've all heard of safe words when it comes to pleasure. Some see them as jokes (made in pop culture, music, etc), but in BDSM they are ESSENTIAL to any kind of play session. Safe words can make all the difference between a successful session and an unsafe session. The word you can use is up you, but nonetheless there needs to be AT LEAST one safe word.
In BDSM, the common safe words are aligned with the "stop light". For example:
Green = "I'm good; keep going; I like this; My bod...
2021-08-08 23:53:17 +0000 UTC
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Happy Saturday!
Today I bring you a transparency post. We often discuss the things you could be doing to get to the bag, educate yourself, grow within your journey, and network, but we often don't discuss the things you AREN'T doing. This post won't apply to everyone; it's more so generally speaking.
1. You have little content or no content at all
There's nothing on your pages to entice subs or even give them idea of what it is you do. Instead, there may be tons of ret...
2021-08-07 13:45:50 +0000 UTC
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This a topic that was suggested and one that I really want to touch base on. As you are exploring your journey as a Domme, whether lifestyle or professional, life is going to change. You're going to come into new experiences, new money, new crowds, and you're going to learn things about yourself that you'll have to become comfortable with. The glow up is NOT to be rushed, but best believe that it will come.
1. New Experiences
Of course, learning about BDSM is an experience all on ...
2021-07-20 01:20:35 +0000 UTC
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This is for all tiers who are actively using twitter to promote their content.
- Try to always have a “pinned post”. Pinned posts consist of one tweet that you want to remain highlighted at the top of your page when people come to it. I tend to use my posts that have garnered the most attention, likes etc. If you’re just starting out, this can be a post with a photo/video and links to your content. You can change this post around as often as you want, but I recommend once ever...
2021-07-08 20:31:48 +0000 UTC
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Happy July! Its the first week of a new month which means fresh starts and fresh goals!
Here are some tips/advice/reminders moving forward for this month:
1. Be sure that all of your social media is up to date. This includes Twitter, IG, Fetlife, Seeking, AVN, OF, Niteflirt, IWC, etc. Make sure that you have fresh profile pictures, info, and that all your payment methods are up to date. Sometimes our vanilla lives can get so busy that we allow these pages to collect dust. Keep in ...
2021-07-06 19:03:59 +0000 UTC
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Happy Friday! Here's another session series post for the month of June. This time we will be discussing chastity devices and how to work them into sessions, both online and in person.
Chastity devices, or cages, are pieces of equipment that can be worn on the sub's private areas. These cages prevent the sub from being able to touch themselves and restricts the overall movement (unless they have to use the bathroom in which majority of cages have holes for this). These cages work great i...
2021-06-12 00:28:19 +0000 UTC
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Here's the link to the Discord Engagement group: https://discord.gg/G3yqdB53th
Reminder that this group is solely for the purpose of engagement, RT, likes, etc on social media to work as a community to create visibility.
Cant wait to see you all in there!
2021-06-03 15:24:58 +0000 UTC
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I’ve decided to introduce a new collection of courses to the Sexcademy called “Sessions Series”. These courses will help to give you ideas on what to do during RL sessions.
Let’s first start with foot worship:
Floor worship sessions, to me, are typically the easiest kinds of sessions to do as you can literally relax during this session and be pampered. You can also switch it up and throw some sadism in there should you want to be aggressive. It all depends...
2021-05-21 18:53:07 +0000 UTC
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This post is for anyone who may be having trouble or internal struggles when it comes to this line of work, no matter what learning tier you are on. Here are some reminders to keep with you:
1. Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s. Focus on your work, your craft, and your own wins. We all take different paths in this work - something that may work out for another SWer may not work out for you.
2. There’s a difference between actively putting...
2021-05-06 14:39:47 +0000 UTC
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Good morning!
I’ve recently cleaned up our twitter engagement group to be more active. This group is for those of us on twitter that work together to help each other gain visibility through retweets, likes, comments, etc.
To be added, please comment below with your twitter name. BE SURE THAT YOUR SETTINGS ON TWITTER ARE SET TO ALLOW GROUP MESSAGES AND ISNT PRIVATE, otherwise I can’t add you.
2021-04-28 13:15:37 +0000 UTC
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Good afternoon!
I’ll be hosting another soon check in for May. For those who are new, this check in allows me to check on your progress and you to ask questions. This is for ALL TIERS. This will be held on May 13 at 6 PM EST and will be recorded to access later.
Mistress Marley is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.
Topic: May Sexcademy Check In
Time: May 13, 2021 06:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)
Join Z...
2021-04-24 16:33:40 +0000 UTC
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Often when we come into this work, whether in BDSM or SW, we think that we need to have a certain personality to be able to sell our content. This is FALSE. I always tell people to just be themselves, literally. Yes, you can also play a character or different personality online if you should choose, but for some of us, that seems much harder.
For example, in my personal life, I am nurturing, bubbly, and still can be stern. I translate this into my Domme life by being a sensual sadist, m...
2021-04-13 13:30:48 +0000 UTC
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As discussed in previous courses some subs will not always be able to tribute or pay you for a session. This does not mean that the sub cannot be useful. For those that are just starting out in the industry, hiring subs for the purpose of content can be very beneficial. Most of the time you can find the subs on Fetlife and they are more than happy to volunteer for your content. Here’s an example of an ad you can write on any of your social media to find content subs:
“I am a Domme i...
2021-03-21 21:00:30 +0000 UTC
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* This guide will only be posted once.
This step by step is for new students who sign up on the Sexcademy. I needed to make this guide as some new students sign up and don't know how to go about learning.
1. AFTER SIGNING UP, TAKE TIME TO LOOK THROUGH THE COURSES.
Through observation, I see that a lot of you sign up and come STRAIGHT TO MY INBOX, no reading, no watching, no taking notes. This is NOT how this academy works. In my opinion, the best students are the ones who ta...
2021-03-12 18:32:58 +0000 UTC
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Happy Friday!
I’ve teamed up with @sexualessentials to bring you all a course on attracting followers to your pages. I think we can all benefit from other opinions of outside instructors!
https://vimeo.com/470359527
Password: marley
2021-03-12 17:59:03 +0000 UTC
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D/s relationships involve A LOT of consent and safety. In any dynamic where one party is giving up control, things can get more risky.
SSC - Safe, Sane, and Consensual :
Ask yourself is the kink is safe, sane, and if everyone consents to it. Make sure to all be on the same accord!
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
You are held personally responsible for your kink and know of the risks that come with this kink. Be informe...
2021-03-11 00:30:40 +0000 UTC
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Happy Monday everyone! This is our monthly check in post. Please comment below with any wins you may have or things you want to get better help on. This post is for POSITIVITY, help, and encouragement, not for comments such as “nothing is working for me”, especially if you’ve just joined within the past 3 months and haven’t been diligently working!
I am here to help as much as I can. Please ensure that you have gone through ALL courses in your tier to better help yourself.
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2021-03-08 17:42:32 +0000 UTC
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This was a course suggestion by a student, so I thought I'd dive into it!
Being an educator in the kink and fetish world can be both rewarding and challenging. The first things you have to ask yourself: what makes me qualified to teach? What work have I done on my end that will prepare me to educate others?
You always want to teach from both experience and research. EXPERIENCE is big when teaching kink education, as BDSM is a hands on experience that deals with a lot of trial and ...
2021-03-02 20:43:09 +0000 UTC
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This course will explain the steps in setting up and in person session, what to do during the session, and what to do after. Please note that this is just a guide of suggestions. Only do things that you are comfortable with and don't hesitate to adjust some of the bullet points to your liking.
SETTING UP THE SESSION:
1. Be sure that you've followed all steps to properly vet the sub for your safety. This includes sub application, background check, references, and other things that ...
2021-02-21 15:35:47 +0000 UTC
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I've received messages from some of you having a hard time with promoting yourself through Findom to attract subs. I will say, after checking out some of your Twitter pages, I am noticing that majority of you are lacking actual content - instead I am just seeing text posts with tags. Yes, subs do read your text posts, but they are more enticed by video and photo content, along with other avenues to access your content.
Ask yourself: "Am I using as many means of advertisement as I ...
2021-02-18 13:42:35 +0000 UTC
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Good morning!
I am back momentarily from my hiatus to check in on everyone and their progress. I hope you have been studying the lessons, editing your profiles, posting content weekly, studying more about kink, curating your aesthetic, and much more!
I am always looking for ways that I can provide more help on this platform. With that being said, today I will be taking course suggestions from you all. When making your suggestion, please make sure that it isn't a course that is alr...
2021-02-15 13:11:14 +0000 UTC
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Good afternoon!
For everyone who attended last nights meeting or watched the recording, I introduced the idea of an engagement group on Twitter strictly for us. An engagement group is for those who are in findom, femdom, or content creation who wants to have more eyes on their post. We basically help each other with exposure. To join:
- You must be active and willing to help out your fellow classmates
- Have an active twitter SW account
2021-02-01 18:04:28 +0000 UTC
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Affirmations are repeated words or sentences that raise your vibrations and put you in a state of receiving what you want. This can be used in all areas of life, but I’ve specifically written one for money and success. Repeat this daily or write it in your journal:
“Money, success, and abundance flows to me effortlessly. I am a vessel of rewards and gifts. I am consistently spoiled, taken care of, and showered with my desires.”
The more you repeat this, the more i...
2021-01-10 15:48:08 +0000 UTC
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Happy New Year Academy Babes!
I am so happy to have made it into the New Year with you all and I'm looking forward to another year of teaching, learning, growing, and continuing to create relationships with everyone. If you are recently new to The Sexcademy, WELCOME! This is an open environment where being proactive is SUPER important in being successful on whatever journey you are taking. Here are some reminders as you are browsing the platform:
1. Be sure to make sure you have b...
2021-01-01 16:17:58 +0000 UTC
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Here's a public guide on how to sign up on Reddit, create your page, and sell content!
https://docs.google.com/document/d/174TK6zOxJzKcbB0o9HFhf8N70B0EiNs0b4Whq5JzIvk/edit
2021-01-01 16:03:02 +0000 UTC
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Sensation play is a good element to add to any session, seeing that there are many different types of sensations to explore. Hot, cold, sharp, soft, rough, etc...the options are endless!
1. Ask your sub if they’re allergic to anything
You don’t want to use any materials or sensations that are overly sensitive to your subs skin. Be careful with things such as candle wax, materials with perfumed scents, etc. Remember, consent is still important here...
2020-12-20 20:10:39 +0000 UTC
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