PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Can You Be Friends With Women?

Pursuing workplace flirtations (and G-d forbid romances), in the current year at least, is like asking for trouble to come your way.

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The reverse can also be true, This girl at work was head over heels for me but even the thought of being with her disgusted me to be honest. I felt kind of guilty but couldn't help it. She was just so unattractive to me. Now again to be honest I kind of lead her on as well since she was one of the few girls in my life that has been so attracted to me so I kind of took out my anger from women and previous rejections on her. Again not proud of this but girls definitely do the same with orbiters. But anyways had to cut this relationship off completely. Thankfully she quit herself and then I just cut it off but it was so freaking weird. I'll never even flirt with anyone at work again.

There are a lot of similarities but women need to be aware of potentially leading men on and giving the wrong impression more than guys do because men often interpret any interest as romantic interest and women need to guard against that.

Alexander Grace

Sorry yes, the YouTube videos get the full editing treatment and have a better sound quality.

Alexander Grace

Why is your YouTube audio better? Your Patreon videos sound like its coming through only one side of my headphones

Killer Bean

The first two examples raised yellow flags for me and the second two raised red flags. I can think of potential scenarios where they MIGHT be ok, but the circumstances would have to be right.

Yes but is it ok to go swimming with a female friend, or for my gf to go for lunch with a male friend? Is it ok for my gf to have a single male friend who apparently likes her even though she is not attracted to him? Is it ok to have an ex gf as a friend?

Andy

I've been there and I can say it is highly detrimental! A very bad place to be! The more open you are to freely speaking in a relaxed way and interacting with women and people generally speaking (strangers too) the more successful you'll be at picking up chicks, dating and have good relationships too!

What if the roles were reversed and we were targettting a primarily female audience and discussing the possibility of having male friends? Would the points be the same? I am inclined to think so, as I think that AG has presented points that could apply to both genders. But I'm interested in hearing other's thoughts on this and from AG too!

Ashwin Srinivas

Had to laugh at the “women talk over each other” stuff because that communication style difference is definitely one of the things my husband and I - even after 2 decades of being together - experience. We’ve long since stopped arguing about it, but sometimes there is still that moment... that slight huff of WTF, when he’s frustrated because I talk over him or I’m frustrated because I feel like he’s taking forever to start and finish speaking. Truly understanding it’s not a personal slight is super valuable in a relationship though.

Yes, the general notion that it never works can be easily dropped. On the other side in real life it could maybe possibly be interesting to see how often the intentions actually don’t align. How big of a problem it is. I know of many cases where a pretty girl was actually admired by most guys in a romantic way. But she thought (or made herself to think) they are all just super nice people that naturally listen to her whatever she says and spend their energy on her like it’s just what she deserves enjoying it...