PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Dating A Woman With A Sexy Instagram Account Or Onlyfans

On "being not discerning": yes I've noticed a trend of this as I watch more of your videos, Alexander. Interpreting the actions of others often requires context and as a result it's difficult to make generalisations like this. That said, I do appreciate your articulate and lucid expression of your thought process and how you've arrived at your opinions - I just think there are many tangential paths you've not yet explored that might help to bolster or refine these opinions.

this is veeery interesting

I hold the same perspective. I would be weary of the overtly sexual content from a values perspective. Not a fan at all of trying to get someone to change to my alignments, I’ve always thought that it’s far better for them to change if their own accord so you know they’re doing it for themselves from values digested within themselves rather than being persuaded a different way so in that sense the overt content would be a red flag but leading towards dealbreaker after the discussion has been made. In another sense if guys are concerned about the constant waves of dudes messaging her, the worst thing you could do is start being jealous over those attempts. If anything it should be an opportunity to magnify yourself in contrast to them and be confident in yourself as well as confident in her desire for you over them. Jealousy is nothing more than you feeling threatened of your own value. You see her attention towards mother guy, her attention socially proofs (in your eyes) the other guys value otherwise she wouldn’t be focused to him and you are wanting to fight for her attention to get it off that other value. If the guy was of such obvious low value that it would be ridiculous that she would be interested in him, would you still be jealous? Of course not. She hasn’t changed in that hypothetical and neither have you - it’s only the other dude that is different and suddenly the jealousy is gone. It has nothing to do with her or the other guy but your perception of yourself relative to the other guy. Think about it. Women find it far sexier to see your reaction to what most guys would exhibit jealousy to be the opposite; full confidence in a playfully cocky way > being controlling.

Craig

that's totally ok imo

Marcin Rajski

Such a structured discourse. Props to you

What if she's just famous.. but not for being sexy. Like just cosplaying or being an artist?

Wild_Card

We tend to over correct our past mistakes also known as Hegelian Overcorrection.

Hardik Gupta

a big social media presence is a serious flag for me, but you're right there is a difference in how they present themselves. i hadn't considered that angle. still i think it's far too easy to cross the line from posting "beautiful" photos to posting "hot" photos.

Although, if you want a good laugh and eye roll... boyfriends_of_insta is pretty good

So the insta thing... sometimes girls are just having legit fun. Sometimes, they are fake as hell just for the camera - one big photographic lie about their personality, lifestyle, and appearance. Sometimes they use their children to act as a human camera stand while they take sexy, half naked photos. Sadly, I see more and more of the latter two rather than first - and it’s hard not to lump them all in together in my mind.

Letting women do fun women stuff perspective is pretty cool. I'd never thought of it like that, and you're right of course. I think it would be more about the responses she was making to approachers. Thanks Alex. :)