PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Can You Play Too Hard To Get (As A Man)

Ain’t that the truth! First really high quality woman in my life was forbidden to have anything to do with me by her father. We had a brief second fling for several weeks three years later. That was over forty years ago now. It was seven years and many GFs later before I discovered my second high quality woman. They’re few and far between...

It also sounds like mind games are being played. Anytime someone speaks to me like that with the 'ol push and pull, I walk away. Not enough time in life for bullshit like that, hmm.

Joel K. Normann

I'm making friends with a woman I'd like to keep, we've been talking a few months. It's a lot of work to not lose my center around her, but I know the immediate consequence if I do... While giving her space (a few days) I already got the explanation that I was being too distant, but when I put in more effort she pulled away. I always remember to not listen to what she says, but watch what she does, but it's still very hard. I see exactly how she'd be amazing in all types of ways, but my hands are really tied at this stage and I have to stay backed off.. Tough times, but much tougher if she closed everything down for good.

Oneitis is a non reciprocal infatuation you have to a woman who you have pedestalized. It is a serious problem but in our analysis we need to be nuanced enough to differentiate between simping over any old woman and genuine attraction to a high quality woman born from your own positive self esteem.

Alexander Grace

i don’t understand how you said before the humans are socially monogamous not biologically monogamous but you’re advocating that settling down is essential. also this whole video feels like a case of oneitis. its no such thing as the one that got away. i feel as though if men improve themselves then when they are in their later years they will have no problem attracting women. and in terms of looking older as you age and it limiting your options. a lot of things do. it is nothing wrong with being a bachelor all your life and it isn’t unhealthy at all

Insightful video, as a guy in his early 30's this one really hits home! Thanks 👌

I've seen many videos about women who lament about the guy who got away, so it is interesting to hear about the woman that got away. It is a real thing, and it can haunt you for a lifetime.