PATREON EXCLUSIVE: If A Girl Rejects You Is It Ever Worth Continuing To Try?

This helps me so much for letting her go. Thank you.

I really really REALLY needed to hear that.

Just because something is difficult or scarce doesn’t mean it’s valuable. It not easy to be poor or homeless either but I wouldn’t recommend it.

I think you can argue as she now has set you in this rejection bubble, you should not pursue her any longer. Move on to something else.

I wonder though, is there a chance a girl is rejecting you because she thinks you're superficially pursuing her (like you're a player) and rejects you initially but upon seeing you're honestly interested she changes her mind? It sometimes bothers me this idea of me giving up immediately after being rejected thinking of this. Like it's not lack of interest just skepticism on her part, or a cautious attitude.

Fernando Martinez

I have a quote that may apply to this- If she's amazing she won't be easy, if she is easy, she won't be amazing, If she is worth it, you won't give up, if you give up, you're not worthy.

This is a great topic. I've heard of a guy who asked a girl 3 times and they have been married for 37 years.

I think it depends on for how long you date: (A) One week, two weeks? Meet, flirt and fuck some other girls and try it again a few weeks later. She migh't haven't known you good enough in the first place to fall for your qualities. (B) You dated or have known for months, years? Take a year out. Sleep with ten other women first before you call her again. Ten, not including hores or low quality woman.

I think the biggest reason men struggle with this is because so many other areas of our lives teach us that perseverance is key. We're taught not to fear failure but welcome and challenge it. This is powerful and highly effective in pretty much every area of a man's life except dating, where it is the exact opposite of what you want to do as you outlined in the video.

You cannot Negotiate Genuine Desire. You want a Girl that has Genuine Desire for you.

Hardik Gupta

Oof. Plenty of ppl out there still.

hah! just in time! I got "rejected" 3 hours ago. Time to devour this video :D

Remember guys, your the prize. If she says no. It's her loss because you're becoming something great 👍.

ps I liked the parts when you where interviewing women with all sorts of questions and seeing their reactions and feelings - that was really good

no, i think not girls should be totally into you from the getgo they see you, this is what she wants, all good never chase buses and women, you'll always left behind

Thx! I'm in kinda a similar situation... She told me just after a couple of dates she "doesn't feel it" and we kinda ended up in some FWB-situation. I'm now slowly seeing changes in her behavior that makes me wonder... At some point I will need clarity as I do want to pursue a relationship with her at some point.

Roeland

This is gold

Slava Zelensky

Great video!

The true fruit of a healthy relationship with a high quality woman is when you’ve created such a connection that she is craving you. Obsessed with you. It’s so much better than some second chance, second rate connection that will never last. Keep working on yourself until you can create that genuine connection and you’ll bear the fruits of that effort in droves.

Generally, I don't insist. On some occasions, I may give it another try, just because trying didn't hurt anyone and because they may fall for it. It happened sometimes. But this is valid only when you're pursuing sex - you can trick them for sex only. But if you're pursuing something serious, it has never worked if you tried again, so I don't try again if I had something serious in mind.

Very good advice and something I've had to experience. There were a couple girls that I continued to pursue after rejection, partly because the rejection was quite vague, but then again, I was pretty vague in my asking too...Alex was right on in his reason why guys continue to do it, because it's the only tangible option. Thankfully I did stop when I realized it just wasn't worth the work of continually trying.

I can get behind this advice. My husband and I are early/mid 40s. Pre-COVID we went on a few Viking cruises, which cater to older people (average age being mid-60s) and we’d talk to couples about how they met. All the people we spoke to were happy, healthy (for the most part), and wealthy and none of the stories we heard started out with... “she initially rejected me.” There were plenty of stories of “we were friends first” but in all those cases it seemed that as soon as the guy gave the indication he wanted more - the woman was fully on board. This was the case with me and my husband as well. If a woman outright rejects a man - especially due to lack of attraction or lack of time.... I see the same risks as you - the woman continuing to reject, or “settling” and both of them being miserable. The one exception I can think of was a couple where the woman initially rejected the man because she thought it was too soon after a divorce from her first husband that she married at a very young age. She liked the new guy a lot but was worried about a whole “rebound” disaster and was still getting things settled for herself. So she rejected (due to timing)- he continued to pursue and eventually they got together. But again, she really liked the guy to start and there were unique circumstances to them.

The crazy thing is, the dynamic of any relationship gets established right at the outset. In some cases within the first minutes. That is why the information shared here is so important for anyone still thinking they want to play in this arena. It's like starting a chess game with 2 or 3 sloppy moves. Good luck gaining that ground back.

Is it me or do i see an ocean of screwed up people with socialmedia? I can see men simping as hell to some women and makesme cringe. And women that like having the orbiters and are smooth about it so they will not become too apparent. I hate this! Both men and women. I do understand what happened. And yet some men still try for a single woman that's pretty much busy and doesn't care about him saying probably "oh not now! i'm too busy" keeping the simping and giving the guy hope. No one learns. I got interested in your channel for self improvement and that's pretty much it. Will take forever i guess but i won't give up. Most men and most women don't aknoledge this happening. Denial sucks.