PATREON EXCLUSIVE: How to handle it if your girlfriend makes more money than you
Added 2023-11-25 05:00:02 +0000 UTC
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That's interesting
Jabez Nelson
2023-12-06 04:42:07 +0000 UTC
Excellent suggestion on using the situation to explore better work life balance.
Mark Bryski
2023-11-30 18:29:05 +0000 UTC
The only thing that couldn't bother a woman more is seeing a man doing nothing.
Andrew W
2023-11-25 21:15:20 +0000 UTC
Case in point that hypergamy is not one-dimensional!
Ashwin Srinivas
2023-11-25 18:14:45 +0000 UTC
I’ve never cared about a man’s finances - it’s all about his ambition & work ethic, & his ability to plan, save & manage whatever money he has capably. However, I will say that the relationships in which I made & had more money than the guy - whether shorter term or LTRs - haven’t turned out well. But those men didn’t have productive ambitions & lacked initiative as well as work ethic & reliability, so I acknowledge I chose poorly. Investing myself in a young man with potential is the best strategy ime.
Intellectual hypergamy is what I seek above alI: IQ + inquisitiveness + critical thinking + openness.
RhodiumMaiden
2023-11-25 14:04:23 +0000 UTC
Ironically this is the problem that is harder to solve when it is self esteem issue rather than one real one causing financial issues.
I had in my therapy group blind guy whom I helped to move out of the ex (who was also blind). He is very socially active, studying finances at university, taking social initiatives, like teaching other blind people to use electronics, writing articles. Yet he was nagged by her ex for not achieving enough. He separated finally and I am happy for him. The solution was easy as problem was very clear.
My friend also had self esteem concerns about his low earnings in couple. He managed to get better job before any problems took hold.