PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Admitting my bias - The 5 things I don't talk about on my channel
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Whilst relationships are great at teaching you about yourself and the other gender, what you like/don't like, conflict resolution and forming emotional connection, you should not feel insecure about being a virgin. I had my first gf when I was 30, she lived with two guys for a few years and I was the one teaching her about sex... People are quite bad at sexual intimacy in general so unless you are dating a prostitute, the first few times won't be good, expect it. Sexual compatibility is one thing you can improve with time though so don't worry about it and just do your research - it's a skill like anything else. If you are really into each other, it's gonna be great... eventually anyway :)
aldon
2024-10-26 06:39:39 +0000 UTC@Eric Linden - I'm no great student of comparative religion, but the Abrahamic ones (not just Judeo-Christian), seem to tend to emphasize the MEANS (rules, convenants, worship practices, sacraments) a bit more than either Hindiusm or Buddhism, where the END (enlightenment, nirvana, cessation of suffering, ethical living, fulfilling one's "dharma" and wisdom) seems more greatly stressed. And as far as "morals and the law" is concerned, few beliefs are as devout as "Confusianism" (which has infused itself into the fabric of many "Far Eastern" cultures, even if not as actual explicit "religious" practices). Also, I would tend to say that Alexander (and much of the "West") are, since Renaissance times and The Enlightenment, equally (if not more) decendents of Aristotelian and other ancient Greek philosophy and ethics--which drove the engine of secular industrialization right over Christian belief systems in MOST areas. Agnosticism and Atheism are just a couple of the more notable by-products.
Joseph Omega
2024-06-11 07:33:01 +0000 UTCAbout values - this is where AG gets it wrong, but also totally gets it right. AG is atheist/agnostic. But he lives by a Judeo-Christian value system, the same as most of us here, including me. He just doesn’t realize it. Judeo-Christian values are about morals and the law. They don’t mean you believe in a deity.
Eric Linden
2024-06-06 13:50:37 +0000 UTC'.....I certainly concur that the value of someones happiness outweighs the drawbacks of having to go abroad. For one it's not really fair that you are being cornered into even having to consider it. But I do wish anyone the best of luck in attempting.....
iamsamoth
2024-05-06 20:04:01 +0000 UTCThat conditional statement at the end was superb and on spot, it really is a personal obligation, don't suffer, and you have the means, do it. Maybe they can help in the future in some fashion. concur, if someone is able, and feels it necessary for happiness you should proceed guilt free.
iamsamoth
2024-05-06 20:02:13 +0000 UTCAdding religion to the mix might make some fringe cases work easier, but it's just another variable. You want fewer.
iamsamoth
2024-05-06 19:56:19 +0000 UTCTrue. Not all religions are monotheistic; and there are only three main Abrahamic religions.
Eric Linden
2024-03-28 00:20:24 +0000 UTCNobody knows Oprah’s partner because they didn’t get married. But everyone knows Will Smith and Johnny Depp’s wives.
Eric Linden
2024-03-28 00:16:32 +0000 UTCHi Alex, that video deeply resonated with me. Throughout its duration, it served as a poignant reminder of our discussions in the HC. I greatly appreciate your decision to tackle this challenging/darker aspect of reality, even though it may diverge from your personal mission. As I watched, I felt understood, helping me to come to terms with reality. Thank you for providing such valuable insight and wisdom through this video.
Sebastian
2024-03-12 08:28:55 +0000 UTCHey Sebastian, I thought you would like to know that you inspired me to make this video based on our HC discussion about a month back :)
Alexander Grace
2024-03-12 01:17:26 +0000 UTCGreat video, Alexander. It's excellent to see the big picture painted. I believe it all began with economic prosperity and wealth; without it, the West would be nothing. No one would have a substantial interest in third-wave feminism while trying to thrive and survive. Developing countries dont suffer (yet) from those side effects of prosperity.
Sebastian
2024-03-11 21:59:40 +0000 UTCProbably because women feel very secure in todays society with the state providing a lot of the security that husbands would usually be providing. When in more chaotic times, and being more keenly insecure, they had a distinct and keen interest in not fucking around about securing a man.
Brill
2024-03-04 20:25:07 +0000 UTCMedieval people believed women were the crazed seductresses too. This idea that men want sex more & aren’t in control is quite modern, at least in the West.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-03-04 19:19:58 +0000 UTCI see another factor that is kind of beyond one’s control but makes a huge difference: whether you already have had a previous girlfriend. In my opinion, that makes a huge difference, because that experience gave you the opportunity to better understand the opposite gender: see your (ex-)gf respond positively when you "act more masculine", see the flaws of a woman and hence break the "angel perception" on that gender, build up some decent kissing and bedroom skills. All of this will make it much easier dating women in the future, especially if they are > 25 years old and expect/require you to know what you are doing. It is beyond one’s control because it is inevitable to have a first. The difference is whether you have it young, in which case some things will be forgiven, or older, in which case there is a "competence threshold" one will have to somehow surpass despite having little to no experience. Dating is sort of a game where there is no easy mode, so unlike eg video games it’s not obvious how to progressively level up until having decent skill.
Galdor
2024-03-04 12:19:47 +0000 UTCIn ancient greece women were considered uncontrollable sex craving uncivilised gender Its truely interesting how adaptable we are. The human mind can take amost any limb aka input and normal virtual or real and process it the same. So hard to point to a specific „natur“ but definitely not hard to point at a specfic learned culture. One that excuses and even praises women for being gut reaction and gut desire. And the universal avoidance of feeling bad/axcountable. Confirmation bias in s a fundamental evolution of a processing organ dealing with imperfect input abd having to build a congruent reality from it. But that heavy implies that it can be different and any loop whole of „cabt help it“ is closed
Peter
2024-03-03 17:46:41 +0000 UTCFully agree with Alex and this experiment is the aftermath of the feminist movement that occurred in the previous generations. The result is childless/single people who just don't have kids and follow the nuclear family. Everybody is the same and there are no traditional roles. The problem is that it breaks societies(with no young people to work and just old people retiring and taxing the system) so the bandaid solution our government do is outsource it's young people with immigration. And at the same time this compounds the COL/healthcare/infrastructure crisis. Fully agree with Alex, our generation is an experiment ... that really turned sour. Us, especially the men, will just be collateral damage in all this. Meanwhile women(both young and old) are running in circles of delusion. Seriously how did it come to this lol ... Either way, advice to success on and individual level remains the same for everyone ... keep pushing and stay true to yourself. And don't sign off on a bad deal ... Like getting desperate and picking a low quality woman and trying to see a high quality person in her is just not going to work.
Louis
2024-03-02 14:42:13 +0000 UTCSooo many songs where women admit to their dark sides/bad behaviour. It’s become quite obnoxious now because they’re flaunting it.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-03-01 23:46:50 +0000 UTCHe’s made a vid on his spiritual views & he’s agnostic, based on that .
RhodiumMaiden
2024-03-01 23:44:47 +0000 UTCI am quite amazed to unexpectedly hear Alex talk about the concept of societal experiment / collective learning view on dating, which is a view that I also came up to adopt. I’d go one step further and argue that it’s not the proper of our generation to be in such an "experiment", it’s just that what’s being experimented/learned upon changes in time. It just so happens that one of those things we have is about dating, or more precisely the sexual liberation hitting a wall/limit. We (or the next generation?) also have been experimenting social networks. My parents’ generation had to confront to drugs and new constructs of familly. My grand parent’s generation lived through the big stores (supermarkets, etc) taking over the smaller ones, and the rise of individual transportation. Some people in the past lived the industrial revolution and the rural exode. Others the green revolution. Others the computers becoming undownable. Others were in an communism vs capitalism & free market experiment. Now, we only remember what worked and why, forgetting that it has been an experiment at some point of the past for the people who lived there and then. And the societies who made the better decisions taking advantage on those changes became stronger. The biggest diffirence might be how more frequent these changes are happening, and how much more difficult it is to keep up with it... (Search for the " Singularity" on Wikipedia)
Galdor
2024-03-01 13:43:28 +0000 UTCAlexander, I happened to find this gem of a song from the 90's, "Bitch" by Meredith Brooks. I kinda think it might be fun to spend a video analyzing this song. is a female delulu song essentially about being proud of being an emotional rollercoaster and that she doesn't want to change, but she plainly states "I don't envy you" meaning she is clearly conscious of what a burden she is. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ivt_N2Zcts
Brill
2024-03-01 12:56:10 +0000 UTCHe doesn't believe in any G/god(s), and he accepted the label "atheist" himself. How do you figure he isn't?
beret-doppelganger
2024-03-01 10:58:17 +0000 UTCAs a Christian, I think free-will is God's greatest gift to us. Adam and Eve had free-will. We can choose to accept Jesus Christ, or not. You aren't forced into it. Sure, some may use unfair tactics to pressure people into things, but that's not God, and you clearly aren't forced to accept the Christian world view. Yes, I think there are going to be negative eternal consequences for those decisions, but you aren't a robot, and you can make your own choices. Much of the West, and certainly America are based off the Judaeo Christian world view. Early America was made up of deeply religious Christians who valued freedom.
John
2024-03-01 10:52:35 +0000 UTCHey Alexander, you spoke a while back about social media being a fad (not sure if it was on the YouTube channel or Patreon). Do you still think it will eventually lose its significance within our generation?
Kevin Pereira
2024-02-29 19:57:28 +0000 UTCMouse utopias were exeperiments with WILD outcomes. In matrix movies they referenced them”The first versions of the matrix were made to be a human utopia too. Entire crops were lost. “ But I don’t know if human society us as fragile . the billionaires are the beautiful ones . Yet they still exist and function and reproduce. They seek more more more! Plus remember, which kind of mice were able to maintain a functioning society ? It was the playful creative ones. Their society didn’t collapse And one of the more defining traits of humanity is our creativity But don’t get me wrong. I get pretty frustrated about things sometimes and in those moments I tend to paint the world black
Peter
2024-02-28 20:31:52 +0000 UTCIf this is an aboration in the experiment. I don’t appreciate being part of it.
Peter
2024-02-28 20:23:00 +0000 UTCWhy do you think being religious is restrictive? Just provide guidelines. Caveat: Islam is restrivitive. But it hasn’t been updated since 1100 ad
Curt Orloff
2024-02-28 19:07:15 +0000 UTCMathematician Gödel wrote a list of ten most desirable women. Asked them to marry sequentially. Number 4 said yes Neischte was rejected by two. Became bitter ( but clever). So many famous men got rejected during their formative years. Most famous women are known only because of who they married. Their careers depended on being married to the famous guy. Who would have heard of Tiger wood’s wife?
Curt Orloff
2024-02-28 18:54:47 +0000 UTCtrying to succeed with the inscrutible doesn’t seem logical.
Curt Orloff
2024-02-28 18:49:39 +0000 UTCIt was a 24/7 forced culture on how to dress, what to say, what to read and learn for the first 18 years of my life until I could be free. I learned just how judgemental and double faced people can be during that time. Ironically I was also forced to take piano lessons during that time lol.
Andrew W
2024-02-28 18:14:58 +0000 UTCWhere’s the boundary between freedom & chaos, Alex?
RhodiumMaiden
2024-02-28 15:38:37 +0000 UTCBtw, we’ve done the freedom experiment. It’s called mouse utopia & it’s going even worse for us than it does for mice.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-02-28 15:36:29 +0000 UTCDude, you’re not an atheist & not all religions are Abrahamic!
RhodiumMaiden
2024-02-28 15:35:19 +0000 UTCReligion must return to save/revive the West.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-02-28 15:34:46 +0000 UTCLooks and age might be to a large extent outside of your control but it is still possible to do the best you can with what you have and as such they could still be legitimate topics. What about intelligence? I would argue this is very much innate and also on the list of what many hypergamous women look for in an ideal man. Wealth on the other hand is much more within your control. I think Jordan Peterson says it is not so much wealth per se that women look for but that they see it as a proxy for general competence. Picking the wrong woman by not giving yourself enough of a selection is also fixable but very much harder to do if you have made the mistake of having a child with the wrong woman. Alexander makes the assumption that the perfect woman for you in your 20s is the same person as the perfect woman for you in your 40s. I’m inclined to agree but just pointing this out as some might not.
Andy
2024-02-28 15:28:59 +0000 UTCHey Andrew. What do you mean by a forced religious environment growing up?Were you just forced to go to church every week? Were you forced to say a blessing at the dinner table? I had to do piano lessons and practice an hour a day for five years. Kids these days may say that was a forced piano environment; and it took up lots more of my life growing up than church.
Eric Linden
2024-02-28 10:21:28 +0000 UTCReally cool to hear you cover these things. You did a superb job explaining them and your positions are fair.
Blair
2024-02-28 09:19:50 +0000 UTCLooks like you are finally taking the black pill. ‘Bout time! Also, I encourage all to go to church, even if you don’t believe. You might go and discover you buy into only 10% or 20% of what they are saying, and that is fine. It’s just an hour a week. Try it for a while and see how it goes. The other thing I recommend is listening to the Bible in a Year podcast. The Bible is a historical book. Listen as a history lesson, not as a believer. You will come out so much smarter about the world and the history of humanity.
Eric Linden
2024-02-28 08:29:15 +0000 UTCAll 5 points are valid and reasonable. But I would like to offer a counter POV from a secular position on religion. The role of religion in society isn't oppression, but social cohesion. If you look into Buddhist and Hindu practices you will find cultures that are very religious and yet very free in terms of doctrine and belief. Force isn't a necessary part, but it is true in the vast majority of cases strong social pressure is present. The goal is to maintain a uniform moral code and provide psychological support to the believers. On the other hand, you are advocating for unconstrained freedom, but without the standard to hold against this freedom you will just introduce pure chaos. Some amount is beneficial, as Peterson is saying, but too much brings destruction. So my solution would be syncretism of science and religion to match the current era. That is a gargantuan test, though.
Cezary Skoczek
2024-02-28 06:50:12 +0000 UTCThe West is by no means perfect, but should it fall, I shudder to think what will rise to its place. Western values -- such as individual rights to liberty and pursuit of happiness, sanctity of human dignity -- deserve to be espoused and defended. Rights and freedom are privileges: for the vast majority of human history, they need to be fought for and earned, and should they be earned, they come with responsibility and accountability. I do wonder if today's malaise is a result of rights and freedom being unearned in the West, i.e. they have become a birthright. History has taught men that privilege come with responsibility, and society has always held men accountable for such, conditioning them as providers and protectors of their domain. Case in point, men in the U.S. have voting rights, but with it comes duty to conscription. It's my observation that Western women have privileges without responsibilities. Privilege unearned is entitlement. Is there any wonder why Western women are so undeservingly entitled?
Hyperion
2024-02-28 05:53:00 +0000 UTCNo. Just say no to proselytization.
Andrew W
2024-02-28 04:02:57 +0000 UTCI love your channel AG, and your efforts to present in as much an unbiased manner that you can. I truly think you have a gift of understanding, and we all can benefit and be better people because of your efforts. Thank you!
Andrew W
2024-02-28 04:01:15 +0000 UTCAndrew, let me begin by apologizing for the hurt you endured. I'm very sorry you had to go through that. But I'm not asking you to believe in Christianity. I'm simply saying that its gospel is a gospel of freedom, not bondage. (See, e.g., Romans 7:6.)
Todd M Thacker
2024-02-28 03:54:47 +0000 UTCI grew up in a sort of forced religious environment, and I know it very well to this day, but it's so depressing that it feels like being caged. There are a lot of things in the Bible you wouldn't want brought to light. Many of them involve dualities of character or even self contradictory moralities. Freedom is the last thing I would call it. You do you man, seriously, I don't care, but not everyone is just going to accept things as they are written in an old convoluted book just because "it's right there".
Andrew W
2024-02-28 03:49:07 +0000 UTCI view Christianity, properly understood, as a release from bondage. Sadly this is not often understood or communicated, but it's right there in the Bible.
Todd M Thacker
2024-02-28 03:12:41 +0000 UTC
