PATREON EXCLUSIVE: How to stop taking rejection personally
Added 2023-02-01 10:00:02 +0000 UTC
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(Edited: -additions / apelling etc) Some are, some less. Some start off that way (me for example) and then toughen up (the goal, with alex and matts help) Those toughened up men by nature, or by nurture, arnt going to be phased in the slightest by a rejection. A high guality, confident, masculine, strong, man are not romantically fragile. But there are a lot of soft squishy souls out there, and I was one of them, and in recognition that those kind of men exist, the compassion, and the humanity, in being cognisant of that potential fragility, and interacting with people, in a careful manner, is super appreciated, if more people thought like you regarding this particular issue, perhaps my soul would not have been dinged up so bad. ππͺππ€ππͺπ
Peter
2023-02-03 05:28:21 +0000 UTCI donβt mind rejection, but I hate rejecting men. Iβd much rather be rejected or dumped. I can handle the pain personally, but knowing Iβm hurting a man, even a man I donβt like or respect at all, is probably the most socially terrifying & unpleasant interaction Iβve experienced & can even imagine. And Iβm not at all afraid of men physically or sexually. I just know how fragile many men are romantically.
RhodiumMaiden
2023-02-02 22:40:05 +0000 UTCAgain, as in everything balance is everything. A basic aspect to human behavior is that we tend to weight the negative more than the postive. It is as Alexander points to through evolutionary psychology that we are wired this way to better survive but to survive the social environment of today is put both compliments and rejection in perspective...especially in this day and age of social media where so much emphasis is put on such shallow values such as looks, status and money. One of the most detrimental attitudes to real scientific research is confirmation bias...it's so engrained in all of us...so much so that the design of research has to account for it's elimination (and has skewed so many research projects). Well, this is where being open to possibility as opposed to being ruled by expectations can be a more powerful approach to life. Couple this with being authentic...I know that manosphere trope that being yourself is what all women say....but that is because they are not being authentic. Everybody wants to be the superior alpha...all stoic and in demand....how about becoming the best person you can be....which means knowing that life is not easy...it is full of rejection and failure....your choice is what you do with it....besides, you get rejected...great, you don't have to waste time on that one...what did you learn from it. Be courageous and at the same time know what you really want...and if what is really important to you is a lot of sex, money and status...then you must live with the consequences of those expectations...on the other hand, if you live for the possibilty of virtue, respect, empathy, integrity and peace of mind...there are infinite choices possible. Everybody wants answers...and an answer boxes you in...it's questions that open possibilities....perhaps you have so much to offer but you are wasting all that potential seeking just a sexual partner....talk about underachieving.
Daniel L Chin
2023-02-02 07:18:45 +0000 UTC
