PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Most people are cheaters
Added 2024-08-06 04:41:07 +0000 UTC
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That guy is gorgeous & seems really great - what a foolish woman.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-11-04 20:51:52 +0000 UTCI'd much rather take advice from a man who has made relationships works than constantly fail, and ask myself what do I do right, and wher do I need to improve. Eventhough I understand my girl is mostly driven by her emtions, it is my responsibility to be the best man I can be, and make her choosing me continuously valid.
Christophe Ruef
2024-11-04 16:05:04 +0000 UTCbut aren't still with your Girlffriend ? Like what happened exactly ?
Raphael
2024-09-12 06:12:48 +0000 UTCnot gonna lie in france most women are cheating hard. sometimes environment is key.
Raphael
2024-09-12 06:08:55 +0000 UTCThe man has to be the prize in the woman’s eyes for sure. She must perceive herself to be “picked” from a large variety of hot girl options that he has, in order to satisfy her biological desires. She must be able to “show him off” to her girlfriends. It is clear when women feel this from their behaviour towards you in relationships. I have even had feminists I was dating in the past try to cook for me. They were terrible at it but it was so cute and the fact that they instantly threw all the feminist stuff away and were trying is what mattered most.
Alan M
2024-08-10 06:01:36 +0000 UTC@EC @Eric I wasn't remarking about @EC's relationship; I should think it would be presumptuous of me to do so as I know nothing of it. Based on @EC's remarks above, I do think @EC has a heathy mindset on relationships. Yes, my post was a commentary about the current state of relationship dynamics and female hypergamy. Thanks @Eric as well for the clarification.
Hyperion
2024-08-10 04:22:08 +0000 UTC@Hyperion - EC is talking about her relationship with her boyfriend. You are talking in general about the wider culture. I have had many relationships, including my first marriage, where the woman did not see me as a prize at all. In my third marriage, I am definitely just as much of a prize as she is. That is the reason AG is always emphasizing finding a high quality woman. A HQW will find her man as a prize.
Eric Linden
2024-08-09 20:14:12 +0000 UTC@E C on the matter of "both men and women are the prize": at a time when socially enforced monogamy was the prevailing norm, perhaps. In this day and age, the dissolution of nuclear family and rampant hook-up culture evince women's delusional requirements and never-ending list of "icks" toward men. A man that meets requirements while simultaneously doesn't trigger any "icks" -- if such a man even exists in the first place -- is statistically rare. In run-away female hypergamy, few rare men are the prizes, while the rest are either unseen, or worse, viewed with disdain and contempt. There are exceptions of course, but exceptions don't make the rule.
Hyperion
2024-08-09 17:50:29 +0000 UTCTo me the issue of the closing note is not so much "if the existence of non-cheating girlfriend is real or not" but WHAT IS THE PERCENTAGE in the dating pool. Chasing girls like that in this lifetime can be as challenging as digging the ground for gold. The effort of the chase alone can cost you some mental health. The locations that might have some are probably nowhere near the place we're living currently (hence the rise of passport Bros but those dudes overlook the essentials, thinking is all roses and rainbows going overseas). Those girls are of the highest caliber and males should ask themself if they are up to the task. In my 20+years of research I've found NONE that were single (partially because I'm also the problem).
ATH-YF
2024-08-09 14:26:49 +0000 UTC16:10 absolutely agree, the red flags are here all along.. observing the way the GF / BF build the first stages of the interactions, the value system, the social environment, the level of self awareness and humility to listen to constructive criticism. The personal VISION/GOALS for the future relation also matters. Life itself bring us shit test potentials mates that display clear red flags. (and we might be one of them for others too) One red flag I fell to notice is my gf had huge problem of me asking my friends perspectives on her. It's a tactic to prevent unnoticed issues to be exposed. Knowing what I know today it's obvious the relationship was a ticking time bomb designed to make ME crumble. The sad truth is that you need to be a lucky person to find a match designed to build long term while avoiding the pitfall set by life. It's also a 50/50 shared effort to keep it going. Sometimes it's even a 200% effort on you or your partner because that beloved soul is not with you physically.
ATH-YF
2024-08-09 14:12:55 +0000 UTCThat cheating problem goes all the way up into the soul mates and twin flames contracts. Once you let your guard down and open up opportunities to meet new peoples outside of your relationship it's over. That's exactly what occured to my GF who was at the opposite end of the trends we see today (she didn't dress up slutty, nor endorsed the hookup culture knowing the damages but meeting one guy was enough to have a backup plan/replacement ready to jump ship). Boundaries for yourself and your GF are vital for a relationship to endure the cheating epidemic. The Men authority and self discipline he can embody is the baseline that can set the relationship experience for sucess or failure but most BF have no boundary self-respect. Their concerns are dismissed by the GF who have no clue on how vulnerable and volatile they are as the emotions run them other. It's one of the most difficult pills to swallow because we don't know ourselves and are over run by our impulses in a social context of decay. So many peoples are just giving up by diving into hookups or quitting the dating game altogether for the sake of self-preservation (myself included as i stopped dating after my soul mate event ended 13y ago).
ATH-YF
2024-08-09 13:46:12 +0000 UTCI’m a cheater.
PerMagnus Lindborg
2024-08-09 06:10:17 +0000 UTC"There are no egos" says the egotist prattling on about: her bitterness and hatred of men... her dull sex life... her mother issues... her therapy needs... her self-sabotage... her I.aging relationships. Get over yourself already. Nobody cares.
MB
2024-08-09 06:00:22 +0000 UTCThe focus of 'the work' needs to not only be upon trust, but upon the trustworthiness of oneself.
MB
2024-08-08 22:54:41 +0000 UTCThis is why trust is so important. If we’re all cheaters, and your wife/gf is going out without you, look at what she is wearing. How much skin is she showing? Is she wearing something that will make her more or less likely to give in to her natural inclination to cheat? If you just had an argument, and she’s decided to go out with the girls wearing next to nothing, is she more likely to give in and cheat? Does that itself cause another argument? A high-quality woman wouldn’t go out when things are tense between you. She wants to protect your relationship from her instinctual tendency to cheat. This goes for men as well. Both partners need to work on trust.
Eric Linden
2024-08-08 13:31:01 +0000 UTCI absolutely LOVE your mindset, when it comes to this concept. Both parties ARE the prize. In the sense that, it's not about one being superior/inferior to the other, but rather both parties are consistently wanting the other, and doing everything in their power to KEEP their significant other.
Pack o' Kittens
2024-08-08 12:13:36 +0000 UTC@Joseph. I don’t think traditional feminism says anything about interdependency of the sexes. Perhaps you’re thinking of 3rd wave feminism.
Eric Linden
2024-08-08 08:58:58 +0000 UTC@E C - "We are both THE prize" makes little grammatical sense, and sounds like typical wafflely meta-messaging and "womanese". Perhaps what you REALLY mean is that "we are both prizes for each other". But this appears inconsistent with traditional Feminism that discourages inter-dependency of the sexes. PS. It sounds quite strange, given all that you have shared about your relationship with him, that you consider your boyfriend to be your "prize" -- one does not usually turn down proposals from one's prize.
Joseph Omega
2024-08-08 04:18:31 +0000 UTCBehavior is what we should judge people on. Thoughts are just thoughts. Actions speak louder than thoughts.
Eric Linden
2024-08-06 23:55:20 +0000 UTCMuch of the miseries and disorders of human life seems to arise from the conflict between our nature and nurture. We are all capable of baser instincts: theft, deception, violence, indignation, jealousy, etc., and of course, infidelity. Nurture is the way to defy succumbing to our baser instincts, which often comes in the form of instant gratification. To quote Adam Smith: "none of them can deserve to be pursued with that passionate ardor which drives us to violate the rules either of prudence or of justice; or to corrupt the future tranquility of our minds, either by shame from the remembrance of our own folly, or by remorse from the horror of our own injustice." Morality is a conscientious choice of action or inaction despite our ability/capacity/option to do so, guided by ethics and principles. Understanding and acknowledging one's own frailties and moral failings is but the first step to a purposeful and virtuous life.
Hyperion
2024-08-06 17:15:46 +0000 UTCI suspect that the misguided feminist narrative that "women are the prize" has something to do with it. Contradictorily, in women's hypergamous nature, monkey-branching to a more prospective mate is actually the prize for her. If so, who's the prize exactly?
Hyperion
2024-08-06 16:57:20 +0000 UTCWe are all cheaters, but we keep it dormant. Until now, this has been something women have been better at repressing, as they had so many potential partners to cheat with. Sometime in the last century, the culture started encouraging each new generation of women to give in to the urge more. I would even venture to say the latest generation of men is better at repressing the urge, and is less likely to cheat than my generation.
Eric Linden
2024-08-06 14:58:38 +0000 UTCAlso, I hope Alexander responds with "you are making me fucking suspicious of you" whenever anyone makes rude and insulting remarks about his wife and his relationship with his wife. Or, at least insinuate it.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-06 13:01:34 +0000 UTCI am also going to add, over ten years ago, I started to look at myself in the mirror as a "latent cheater". Having an honest view of myself as a "latent cheater" eliminated a lot of anxiety over dealing with people, places, and situations that can enable cheating.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-06 12:52:16 +0000 UTCWow. This is a powerful presentation with many layers to it. First of all, thank you Alexander for sharing your success story on your relationship with Emily. My experience in 12 step recovery groups has shown the importance of someone standing up and saying I have taken responsibility for my part of the problem to work on myself and this is what I have achieved. Essentially, it shows everyone how “it begins with me”. As for cheating, I believe the term that applies to Alexander’s claim that most people are cheaters is “latent cheater”. With a “latent cheater”, the problem always exists and always has to be managed. If it is active, it has to be arrested. Just like alcoholism. One of the things I have faced over the past year is how to deal with women’s “latent cheating” problem. Over the past 18 months, I have learned how to deal with it by watching Alexander’s video library. It has helped me identify the blind spots in my personal psychology and develop an honest and common sense view of women which helps me deal with women in way that makes me less vulnerable to manipulation or my own personal denial. It has also helped me learn to trust my feelings on this matter. Learning to trust my feelings with women by looking at myself in the mirror and not losing touch with common sense has helped me stay off the path of wallowing in self-pity and bitterness where I am lamenting how all women are cheaters. The path I am on feels much more peaceful and serene. I hope anyone feeling hopelessness about having a healthy relationship with a woman or general resentment towards women can find their personal peace because living with confusion and resentment is a hard life to live.
Mark Bryski
2024-08-06 12:38:07 +0000 UTCWomen will outright say to their man that if their favorite hot celebrity offered, she would have sex with him. Men are less likely to say the same kind of thing to a woman, even though they think it. Why is that?
Eric Linden
2024-08-06 11:32:54 +0000 UTC
