Genevieve King

Exercise: Relationship Satisfaction Check-In

Added 2020-08-09 18:00:03 +0000 UTC

Hi cutie,

I'm considering developing a detailed Relationship Inventory workbook. So in preparation for that, let's give my first idea a whirl! (And my standard disclaimer around these kinds of resources: I am not a medical or psychiatric professional, and this isn't intended to be diagnostic. Rather, this is a framework around which you can explore your own feelings, and better understand your own needs.)

Relationship Satisfaction Check-In
This is designed to assess our satisfaction per partnership, regardless of the size of our polycule.

Rate how true these statements feel, on a scale of 1 to 5:
(1 being Totally False, 5 being Totally True)

I feel satisfied with this current dynamic.
I feel clear on what I need from this partner.
I feel clear on what this partner needs from me.
I feel clear on what this partner wants to build with me, if anything.
I know what setting boundaries means.
It's easy to tell this person what I'm thinking.
It's easy to tell this person what I want and need.
I feel heard when I express myself.
They never deny my lived experience (gaslight).
They work to change harmful behavior, when they become aware of it.
They freely speak up when something bothers them.
I'm not always the person initiating emotional labor.
We can fight without abusive tones or language.
We can fight without manipulation or coercion.
We resolve fights in a satisfying way.
I feel no resentments toward this partner.
I don't feel good when they experience jealousy or fear.
I don't feel relieved when I'm away from them.
I don't feel fear that this person will hurt me.
I don't feel fear that this person will leave me.

Those (20) statements will yield you a score of 20-100.

20-30: Very Unsatisfied
31-50: Unsatisfied
51-60: Somewhat Satisfied
61-80: Satisfied
80-100: Very Satisfied

How do you feel about this kind of exercise? Would you like me to continue workshopping my material in this informal way? I value your opinions and feedback!

With love,
Morgan